To forgive someone has never been easy especially if that someone is
your loved one and has done something that has hurt you to the worst
extent. It is too hard to let go of the hurt and pain that someone has
caused us in the past. It gets worse when you see it becoming a part of
you and seeping into everything you do. Forgiveness has many benefits,
not just to the one being forgiven but
to you as well. It can feel like a huge burden has been lifted, a weight
has been cleared, a void has been filled.
Sometimes, it helps
to just talk it out. If the relationship mattered or matters to you, it
will help a great deal if you just open up and express yourself. Being
honest with someone about how you’ve been hurt can be painful and also
hard. But this could help you to great extent. Tell the person in a
decent manner how their actions have upset you. It would help as this
would create a sense of understanding between the two of you. Also, it
would also make the other person understand where he’s gone wrong and he
will be able to correct himself. If you want to cut off from the
relationship or if you think that expressing yourself would make matters
worse, then write a letter addressing it to them. Sometimes, expressing
it in words is a better solution. You don’t exactly have to let them
know that you’ve forgiven them but just what has really hurt you.
Forgiveness is more for you than for the other person.
Empathize with them. Maybe what they did to you was really wrong but put
yourself in their shoes and try to understand the reason for their
actions. Make an effort to understand the factors they were dealing with
and what caused them to do such a thing. It is not difficult to forgive
but it is truly worthwhile. It only makes you a better person. Imagine
yourself years later, do you really want to be that person harbouring
such deep negative feelings that make u feel really bad when you come in
contact with the person?
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