TACKLING JEALOUSY AND INSECURITY

Tackling Jealousy and Insecurity

Do you notice yourself feeling jealous and insecure in your relationship?
Do you often wonder what your partner is doing and wish that you could calm your thoughts and worries?

Do you sometimes think that there is someone more attractive or interesting than you?

If you answer "yes" to even one of these questions, then jealousy and insecurity may be taking up too much space in your mind and in your relationship.

Tackling Jealousy and Insecurity

Tackling the problems of jealousy and insecurity begins with an awareness and understanding of the root causes. It is important to first "name it and claim it".

Jealousy and insecurity can be emotional reactions to scenarios in your mind that may or may not be true. Thoughts, ideas or beliefs may float through your mind based on reality ... or not.

Sometimes those feelings can be useful, signaling that something is wrong in the relationship and needs to be discussed. If this is the case, then it can be an opportunity for growth for yourself and your relationship.

Usually, the emotion, if it hangs around for a while; however, is not healthy or helpful and can even be destructive for you and for the relationship.

Thinking clearly is almost always impossible when thoughts and judgment are clouded by jealousy and insecurity.

Approach Jealousy and Insecurity Directly

Take responsibility for yourself and your own strong reactions. While your partner may be doing, or have done, something in the past that precipitated those feelings, you are responsible for allowing them to hang around and affect you.

Try to understand the trigger for the emotion. What was the root cause? Pay attention to the times when you feel jealous or insecure and see if you can figure out what might have happened right before that triggered these emotions.